Deciphering Predictable Behaviors
So lately I’ve been desperately trying to understand the behavior of someone in my life. This behavior is proving to be VERY detrimental.
I’ve discussed this behavior with the person in question countless times and each time I begin to feel that we have reached not only a consensus but an understanding, the SAME behavior will occur, yet again, with alarming regularity. I’ve talked endlessly about this with my therapist and with friends and again, specifically to the individual, but it all seems to no avail.
And it’s REALLY stressing me out and causing me great anxiety levels.
What to do???
At this point, there is a very real part of me that just wants to give up.
And by this I mean: give up trying to understand, give up trying to care, give up having hope against hope that perhaps just one day…it will be different — it is indeed a “fool’s errand” to think or hope so and yet I do.
Sometimes I wonder: “What will be the magic moment that this person will realize that with this continued and habitual pattern of behavior that they are eroding (and corroding) the most important key elements such as trust, safety and security?” Sometimes I want to scream/rage, “Can’t you see?” and “Don’t you know?” but again, what good will any of that actually do, really?
Apologies for the depressing post today, but it’s where I’m at right now.
